5 Tips on How to Write an Obituary

Writing an obituary is a great responsibility, but it is also a deeply meaningful way to honor the life of a loved one, share the values they cherished, highlight their achievements, and express gratitude for the time spent together. An obituary also provides important information about the funeral, including the date and location, and may mention preferences regarding flowers, charitable donations, or other special details. By following these expert tips from Vilnius Funeral Home, you can create a heartfelt and memorable obituary—even if you are not a professional writer.

1. Do Your Homework

Before writing the obituary, make a list of important dates, people, and key life events. Carefully verify the facts to avoid mistakes. Note any personal details you would like to share. Perhaps you recall a story that beautifully illustrates the deceased’s character, values, or outlook on life.

2. Provide Information About the Death

This section should be a clear and simple summary of essential facts. Include the person’s full name, dates of birth and death, and, if appropriate, the cause of death. To soften the announcement, you may choose gentler phrases such as “Passed away peacefully,” “Entered eternal rest,” or “Reunited in heaven with (a previously deceased loved one).”

3. Tell the Life Story

This is the most creative and heartfelt part of the obituary, where you can sincerely share the story of the deceased’s life, major milestones, and achievements.

You may also describe their hobbies, passions, and meaningful life moments—details that best reveal their character and personal qualities. Do not hesitate to include your own personal memories.

As longtime New York Times editor Marvin Siegel has noted, the most memorable obituaries are those that bring the person to life—sharing vivid stories that may inspire a smile, evoke emotion, or even uplift the reader. Think about moments when your loved one helped someone, experienced an adventure, or brought joy to others. Including a touch of gentle humor can warm the tone.

Reflect on what truly mattered to them—perhaps a beloved hobby, a favorite sports team or music group, charitable activities, or personal values. Share what they would have wanted others to know about them.

And, of course, mention the people closest to them—their family, friends, colleagues, and others who played an important role in their life.

Remember, the purpose of an obituary is to revive warm memories and highlight the most beautiful aspects of a person’s character.

4. Include Funeral Information

Clearly and concisely provide details about the funeral arrangements, including the address of the funeral home or viewing hall, as well as the exact date and time of the farewell ceremony. Indicate when visitors may come to offer condolences. If there are specific wishes regarding flowers, donations, or other requests, include them here.

5. Choose a Photograph

Photographs are not always included in obituaries, but they can evoke warm memories. It is recommended to choose a photo in which your loved one looks happy and natural, with a warm expression and genuine smile.

Although the initial thought of writing an obituary may feel heavy and uncomfortable, reflecting on memories and revisiting meaningful moments can become a gentle journey into the past—helping you say goodbye with greater peace.

The insights shared by our experts can serve as a helpful guide in creating a beautiful tribute to someone special in your life.

Vilnius Funeral Home provides high-quality funeral services, taking care of everything needed for a respectful farewell ceremony. Our private viewing halls are arranged to ensure privacy, so you do not have to share your grief with strangers. Our professional staff offer consultations, assist with funeral documentation, organize traditional burials and cremations, and arrange transportation of remains to and from abroad 24/7. We provide funeral services in Lithuania and the United Kingdom.