Which flowers to choose for a funeral?

As E.M. Remarque once wrote — flowers cover everything, even graves. We cannot imagine funerals without flowers; they are an inseparable part of them. Whether we are grieving beside a coffin or gathering at a memorial ceremony by an urn, flowers accompany us everywhere. However, we may sometimes wonder which flowers are appropriate to bring to a funeral. Experts remind us that, first and foremost, flowers should reflect your relationship with the deceased. Here are a few tips from the experts at “Vilniaus laidojimo namai,” who provide funeral services in Vilnius, to help you choose.

Different Flowers – Different Meanings

Flowers carry special meaning in the face of death. Through them, we can express what is too painful to say and create a final beautiful memory of the loved one we have lost. Studies show that flowers reduce anxiety and bring comfort. Historically, however, flowers were used to mask the odor of decomposition. Sometimes an entire coffin was covered with flowers so mourners could endure being near the deceased. In 1874, U.S. President Andrew Johnson was not embalmed, and his body emitted such a strong odor that the coffin had to be closed and covered with a mound of flowers to allow the service to proceed. Today, body preparation has resolved this issue, allowing greater focus on other funeral elements, such as flowers.

Flower colors carry specific meanings, especially in religion. Purple symbolizes repentance and royalty, white represents light, and green signifies nature and growth. Certain flowers have become closely associated with funerals throughout history:

Lilies. Since ancient times, lilies have symbolized purity and innocence. They represent the soul returning to a place of peace. White lilies are most commonly used.

Chrysanthemums. A frequent choice in Europe and Asia. White chrysanthemums symbolize grief, though other colors may also be selected.

Orchids. White and pink orchids symbolize devotion and eternal love.

Roses. Highly versatile and well suited for funerals. Red roses express love and respect, while pink roses symbolize gratitude and grace.

Gladioli. A classic and traditional choice, often symbolizing the inner strength of the deceased.

Funeral Flower Etiquette

It is important to remember that different faiths view funeral flowers differently. Flowers are not brought to Jewish funerals. Red flowers are inappropriate at Buddhist funerals. In Islam, flowers are brought according to the family’s wishes. When considering flowers, people may also wonder whether to bring a wreath. Wreaths were popular in ancient Greece and symbolized continuity and eternal life, often made of evergreen plants. In early Christianity, the funeral wreath symbolized the victory of the eternal soul over death. “Vilniaus laidojimo namai” advise bringing a wreath only if requested by the family, as large wreaths may appear overwhelming at urn ceremonies, especially with the growing popularity of cremation. Nevertheless, an elegant floral arrangement enhances any type of funeral. If you are unsure, you can always consult the family about what would be appropriate.

Flowers can show how much the deceased meant to you and reflect their personality and legacy. Take time to think about the person you have lost. Were they cheerful and full of life? Roses may be fitting. Were they reserved and serious? Then elegant lilies or regal orchids may be more appropriate.